by Jenifer Herring

10 Tips to Know Before Dating a Female Journalist


ESPN reporter, Erin Andrews.

Check out my post on Good Day Sacramento CBS 13: http://gooddaysacramento.cbslocal.com/video/8216930-manly-minute-truth-about-dating-journalists/

Journalists are a completely different breed than the rest of the population, so you should know exactly what you’re getting into before making a move on one. Here are some tips to help you decide if you can handle being with these females:

1. Female journalists are ballsy. We’re not afraid to tell it like it is because it’s our job. Honesty is the number one characteristic of a talented and successful writer, therefore, that straightforwardness will be projected to you every day. If we don’t like what you’re doing or how you’re treating us, we will immediately notify you…and probably without a filter. If you prefer a woman who tap dances around situations then don’t date a journalist.

We take risks and aren’t afraid of anything-especially you. We are not naive, we are free-spirited, tough individuals who seek challenges. We enjoy going into situations we are not “supposed” to be in or situations that would require other people to ingest four Xanax prior.We can wing it and you will never have to prepare us. We prefer excitement and delving  into new experiences without much thought. Mastering uncharted territory? Sign us up. This is our blessing and our curse.

2. Stay out of our way. Never try to hold us back from doing anything because we will leave you in our dust with no regrets. We believe we can change the world with what we’re doing, so don’t waste your energy trying to convince us otherwise. Our ambition is far stronger than your gym rat arms yanking us back. What you tell us to do, we will do the opposite. If you tell us not to go somewhere, we will absolutely go there. You might as well have a seat because you will lose this argument. We meet lots of people every day, every where we go. You are not special and can be replaced. Confused? Check out Beyonce’s “Irreplaceable” lyrics.

3. We are social creatures. We are colorful, cheerful, confident butterflies that will land wherever we please. We will chat up any individual that comes our way because every person is important-no matter how bizarre. They were put here for a reason and our curiosity is immediately piqued by their strange behavior. Any person could be a possible interview or a networking connection somewhere in the future…or it could just  be an interesting chat with a unique individual. 

That being said, we are entertaining. Don’t hire a comedian at your next party, bring a journalist. We have a zest for life that others do not. We recognize the value of life and how short it can be because we read the headlines. We live every day like it is our last. If you don’t, we suggest you check out the local crime section of your daily paper. Better yet, try the obituaries for a killer reality check-no pun intended.

4. Business is ongoing. Our day never ends and our networking is continuous. Don’t be surprised if our dinner plans get shut down because journalism never sleeps. Food will always be around, but the news changes every second. That particular interview we finagled could be a once in a lifetime opportunity and you will take a back seat. We take chances and have a mindset that some opportunities only come around once.

It’s not that we don’t think you’re important, it’s that what we do is quite important. Let’s face it, without the news, nobody would know what the hell is going on.

5. We aren’t stupid. We’re used to being on edge and thinking on our feet, so we converse well. If you want to banter, bring it-we are masters at this.  We have a deep opinion regarding every topic you bring up and there are probably lots of layers or examples to back up our answer. We are taught to provide proof in our work, so you will always have factual information. 

We are not typical women who know the basics of current events or are dumb broads you meet at your local watering hole. Most of us are witty because we have seen and read it all. Nothing surprises us about humanity anymore, therefore we have to be lighthearted about it. People are screwed up and we know it…why not crack some jokes about it? Life is short. If you don’t have a sense of a humor, you will not last with a journalist. We are skilled at interviews, so we can smell BS from a mile away…don’t bother.

6. We will photograph everything. We are social media experts and will inform our avid followers often on what’s happening around us. We love feedback because we enjoy conversation, so we will post photos, tweet, and “check in” whenever we please. In layman’s terms, if it’s a noun (aka: person, place or thing),  it will be recorded or preserved.  A picture is worth a thousand words and our computers contain several thousand plus video footage. If you don’t enjoy having your picture taken, you will learn to enjoy it or choose to hit the pavement.

We are technology nerds, but are attractive and stylish. We have i-pads, i-phones, Droids, MACs, tablets, nooks and whatever else we can receive media on. We can also multi-task on several of these items at once.

7. We hate your spelling errors. Make sure you switch the Autocorrect setting to “ON” for your text messages because we will rip you a new one if you have a grammar or punctuation error. It is a huge pet peeve considering you graduated high school. This is expected of you.

The majority of us are perfectionists which is why so many copy editors across the world are women. You think we’re hard on you? We’re ten times harder on ourselves. If we do something wrong, you can guarantee we will kick ourselves for it for days (even weeks or months), so please don’t harp on us. We do a good enough job on our own.

8.  We remember your words. Choose your words wisely because they will never be forgotten no matter how many times you apologize. We are programmed to retain events or large amounts of information to create a thorough, concise follow-up story. Nobody is perfect (not even us), but we hold you to a higher standard than other women.

We learn fast, so if you have an issue with us, we hear you and will attempt to fix it ASAP. When things are in chaos or disarray, we can’t function properly. We are amazing listeners and marinate on every word you say. On the downside, we can handle your criticism-but we can also dish it.  Be prepared and fasten your seatbelt.

9.  We are trustworthy. We have a duty to report unbiased information, which is a task since we are very opinionated people. We are the most trustworthy, dependable, responsible, driven types of women you have ever seen. It will take a lot for us to trust you, but when we do, we would never do you harm. We want what’s best for everyone around us, including the bum on the street digging through the trash can. We will help anyone in need  if we can. If you’re not a humanitarian or you are only looking out for “numero uno,” go home.

10. We will write about you. This is not a threat, but we can’t guarantee it will always be positive. You could be a character or part of a non-fiction story. This means you are interesting-congratulations.

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41 responses

  1. Hector Martinez

    sounds like i need a journalist in my life and those characteristics def r something to look foward to ..and u should do an article on 10 tips on dating a music producer and interview me lol

    August 31, 2011 at 8:56 pm

  2. Felipe Escamilla

    I’m gonna say at least 90% applies to men too. Probably more like 95.

    January 27, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    • Wacky backy

      How can you have 95% of 10? 9 and a half right? Please don’t become an economic journalist

      June 3, 2013 at 7:18 pm

  3. BONGEKILE

    If you have been wondering why i say be honest with me this is the case…READ UP and you will understand me.

    March 13, 2012 at 10:07 am

  4. Hello ! i’m brown oghene .do u need some one ,u would want to share ur life wit? beside, i would like to know u . love

    May 27, 2012 at 8:16 am

  5. …and you are open-minded, empathetic, tolerant and humble????

    January 12, 2013 at 1:12 am

  6. It’s almost shocking to see all this in writing. I can relate to all of them (one of the most consistent work arguments I used to have with my now-ex-husband was that no, I can’t leave if the story isn’t finished and no, someone else can’t finish it for me. Seriously?!) although I do have to admit that my heart does hold relationships close – not quite to the “you’re not special” point there.

    January 13, 2013 at 1:30 am

    • jeff floyd

      Jeff Floyd,Detroit Mi.
      Enjoyed your write having worked with a variety of women journalists in front of and behind the camera for many years. The camera reference made me think of the irony of your point #1. A shooter I worked with in local TV starting back in the 70s was once a member of an all-woman crew on a saiboat which journeyed local waters and may have sailed the Port Huron to Mackinaw race. Their unofficial anthem was “No Balls At All” as in We are the Crew With No Balls At all!…Hailing the inherent strength, stamina and abilities of those operating with indoor plumbing and by the phases of the Moom. Your points 2 thru 10 made a bunch of sense. Just might wanna find a more apllicable term than Ballsy to to heads up the Girl Can Do It POV Keep Workin

      January 16, 2013 at 3:51 pm

  7. jake

    Have fun dying alone!

    January 17, 2013 at 11:38 pm

    • Just because we have high standards it doesn’t mean we will die alone. It means we expect high standards. And guess what? Some men have them and they are more than happy to be part of our life story.

      July 4, 2013 at 2:07 am

  8. I couldn’t believe my eyes, it’s like you know me! Hahaha! There is a point or two that are more extreme than what I feel but most of it is spot-on. Oh, by the way, I too have a pet peeve about a mistake that seems to *pop* out at me when I run across it. It’s the use of the word ‘conversate.’ It isn’t actually a word at all, but a slang term for the verb ‘converse,’ which is the correct term to use in your sentence. Just FYI, not trying to be rude to you, my colleague, I’d rather someone told me about a missed error than to have readers see it. I look forward to reading more of your work. Namaste.

    January 18, 2013 at 5:08 am

  9. This is literally me in every relationship I’ve ever been in, and most of the time they end for these very reasons. I love that someone put this pen to paper. I’m printing it out and taking it on first dates!

    January 18, 2013 at 3:32 pm

  10. In the context of dating and relationships, what does a female journalist offer that a man actually wants?

    “a man actually wants” are the salient words.

    January 18, 2013 at 4:56 pm

  11. Edward

    Great list! A couple of things you left out were how humble you come across, and how you’re the antithesis of anything a guy would ever want to date. But hey, at least you’ll have great stories to tell you five cats when you’re old and sitting in your one-room apartment alone.

    Seriously, stop taking yourself so seriously — because none of us do.

    January 18, 2013 at 7:11 pm

  12. Eve

    This is absolutely me! Although, I did find a man who enjoyed ALL of this and we are now happily married with three children. I couldn’t agree with the “your not special” as quite frankly my family comes before my job BUT they know that when I am at work… well, I am at work and I will be home as soon as I can. My husband is an amazing individual, they would have to be to put up with us, but what we give in return I like to believe is worth it. (-:

    January 19, 2013 at 12:40 am

  13. Clayton

    You should’ve been more specific because the hispanic jounalist I know are just the opposite. They are more reserved and have the patience and intellect to look, listen, and gather facts before jumping into any situation. They have nothing to prove so they don’t knock over evry mountain they see just because they can. Several of the reason listed above is why female jounalist alone and and cant maintain a relation. None of the crap listed above is a good foundation for a relationship. I mean, if you got attitude with me because of my grammar than something is seriously wrong with you. SMDH.

    January 19, 2013 at 12:55 am

  14. M

    Barf. Don’t date women journalists. You’ll always be wrong and never enough.

    January 19, 2013 at 5:38 am

    • JW

      Right On, They are Narciscists, yep I spelled that wrong too

      January 20, 2013 at 2:16 pm

  15. Reblogged this on Funny You Ask… and commented:
    Love it.

    January 19, 2013 at 6:35 am

  16. it seems like there a lot of insecure guys out there. Maybe they tried dating a female journalist and couldn’t handle it.

    January 20, 2013 at 11:52 pm

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  18. A guy friend posted this on my Facebook moments ago. Considering I’m a female journalist, I was a bit nervous, but you nailed it. Truthfully, this is almost terrifyingly accurate.

    January 21, 2013 at 4:33 pm

  19. I’ve performed a background check on every guy I’ve ever dated. True story.

    January 21, 2013 at 10:37 pm

  20. now then…if I could only find a girl like that….

    January 22, 2013 at 3:20 am

  21. ABennett

    I am a female journalist. And while I appreciate some of the points (we’re social, outspoken, argumentative, etc.), I can’t help but feel like this article is such a shameless piece of ego stroking that you prove the one point you didn’t mention: many journalists (female and otherwise) are textbook narcissists. Don’t make a list of “things to know” and then proceed to list every quality you are proud of about yourself. This business does have serious drawbacks, and its practitioners do have some major character flaws. Enormous egos being one. If you’d like to call yourself a journalist, then tell the real story, all sides included, without humble-bragging through 1,000 words.

    January 22, 2013 at 9:43 am

    • TC

      So ABennett where is your 1,000 word article with “all sides included” that appeared on CBS ?

      January 23, 2013 at 2:54 am

    • 9buxtonight

      Thank you benett. I knew there were some wonderful and self aware women out there. I wish young ladies could realize sooner that there is nothing special or cute about being self-centered or absorbed. There is something very special and unique about a girl who can get away with being a brat but chooses to have grace.

      February 12, 2013 at 8:24 am

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  23. Reblogged this on Wandertaste and commented:
    great post!

    January 23, 2013 at 8:17 pm

  24. Justine

    This article reads like a horoscope that is common to the vast majority of people. “We aren’t stupid,” “we are social creatures,” “we are ballsy” – every ambitious woman wants to self identify with strong positive descriptors. You could interchange waitress, athlete, business manager with journalist, and those women would say “Ya, that’s me – “Stay out of my way – never hold me back from doing anything!”

    January 24, 2013 at 3:33 am

  25. @dryMAILman

    Get used to pink font? We like writing in pink?

    January 26, 2013 at 6:45 am

  26. Teri Buhl

    Except for number seven this is an excellent description of me. Love it.
    Teri Buhl – financial investigative journalist

    January 29, 2013 at 4:13 pm

  27. Dan Cz

    Question: What do sideline babes have to do with real deal journalism ? When we think of female journalists, do you really want us to think of them ?

    January 29, 2013 at 4:40 pm

  28. Good to know! :-)

    January 29, 2013 at 5:06 pm

  29. Craig H

    I like that you posted #7 we hate your spelling errors,…… in #4 second paragraph you used an extra “we” – it’s that we what we do is quite important. ( I’m not harping, i’m helping) was this intentional to show your humanity or to add irony to the piece in general ? I had to notice since i have a brain scan that is off the scale and things like that jump off the page at me. lol great piece by the way.

    January 29, 2013 at 5:14 pm

  30. Reblogged this on Margot Kiser.

    January 29, 2013 at 6:05 pm

  31. I’m not an official reporter yet. BUT, I am training to be one ;) Numbers 1-10 perfectly define me! Great post.

    January 31, 2013 at 3:46 am

  32. Shakefellow

    You nailed it. It’s my daughter the anchor reporter and I should have known it from the day she was 2 years old. Not surprised that’s who she is at 25.

    February 5, 2013 at 4:26 am

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  34. Great article!! You make me laugh a lot!

    May 26, 2013 at 12:07 am

  35. Great post! Thank you so much for it!

    Alexandra Mihai
    Journalist, Montreal, Quebec

    July 4, 2013 at 2:13 am

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